I’m sure most of you have heard of the mid-life crisis. The cliché we often see in movies where a middle-aged person is lost in life, not knowing what to do next and overall just feeling stuck. It wasn’t till a few years ago that I heard about the quarter-life crisis. At the time I was still a undergraduate student and so couldn’t really relate; I felt like I had a purpose in life and I was busy studying. However, I feel like I can very much relate now, and it’s really no fun at all.
If you’re new here let me tell you a little bit about myself. I recently finished a postgraduate course in London and I am now looking for a job. However, I don’t actually know what I want; I have no clear direction for my future. I think this whole “what the hell am I doing” period started a while back, when I was finishing my undergraduate degree. At that time I was looking for jobs, internships and postgraduate courses to move on to when I graduated. Although I was looking for these things I didn’t actually know what I was looking for because I wasn’t clear on what I wanted to do next in my life. I ended up not finding anything that inspired me and embarked on my gap year, in which I completed an editorial internship in Singapore and travelled a lot. It was great, and for a while I didn’t have to worry about what to do next. But soon my gap year was coming to an end and I had to face the reality of my future. I went back on the hunt for a job/internship/postgraduate course and ended up applying to only one thing; a postgraduate course in London. It was the only thing I found that truly interested me and luckily I got into the program.
Fast forward one year and we’re in the present. I handed in my dissertation for my postgraduate course a few weeks ago and I’m now looking for a job in London. But I still feel the same as a few years ago: I don’t really know what I want to do. I know some basics, I know that I want flexibility in my job, I want to work towards a positive goal and I want a good work/life balance. But to be honest, I don’t really know what that entails. I’m so envious of people who have such a clear vision of their future, who know where they want to work and where they want to be in 5 years time. They seem to have it all figured out, while I’m over here utterly lost.
Now lets circle back to the topic of this post: the quarter-life crisis. Wikipedia defines the quarter-life crisis as “a period of life ranging from twenties to thirties, in which a person begins to feel doubtful about their own lives, brought on by the stress of becoming an adult.” Anyone relate? I know I do; I still feel like a lost teenager when in reality I’m a 23-year old with responsibilities and bills to pay. I would love to take another gap year and just travel, but that’s really not realistic. It’s time I start to figure my life out, which is much easier said than done.
I’m sorry that I can’t give you any tips on how to deal with your quarter-life crisis. I guess I mainly wrote this post to just let you know that if you are feeling this way, you’re not alone! I’m here with you, and I’m sure there’s many of us out there. Maybe in a while I can write a more informative post, hopefully when I’ve got it figured out a little bit more. But in the meantime I’m going to keep sharing my quarter-life crisis struggles on here. Let me know if you can relate in any way, I’d love to hear from you.